When we were little girls, the first stage of indoctrination began with our introduction into the world of fairy tales. Prince charming to the rescue, and the damsel in distress. Rapunzel and the Prince, Sleeping Beauty and the Prince, Snow White and the Prince, The Little Mermaid and the freaking Prince. And so, slowly but surely, the process of this dire strait of indoctrination begins in the female mind, where we are taught from a young age to believe in happily ever after, and that our Prince will come and rescue us one day. And only, then will we be pleased.
In our teens, the bombardment (for millennials) was the concept of Rom-Coms and MTV.
From movies to love songs, the female mind begins its second stage of
indoctrination where she is led to believe that the handsome jock ultimately
falls in love with the nerdy girl-next-door, or the guy acting like a dufus, is
in fact secretly in love with her. (facepalm).
Stephenie Meyer's immortalized Bella and Edward, and millions of female readers around the
world could relate, because it is only in the fictional world of Forks County,
that a man as handsome as Edward Cullen will fall in love with a dork like
Bella. But let’s not blame Meyers fully,
in fact, this heinous indoctrination begins in the Victorian age when Jane
Austen made us believe that a man is rude to you because he is actually in
love with you. And so, begins the immortalization and longing for Mr. Darcy.
We began to
make excuses that a man is disinterested and rude, and has no time for us,
because he is actually in love with us, and for this delulu, I blame Jane
Austen.
And for those who have seen Jerry Maguire, long to hear the famous words, “you complete me.”!!! We are led into thinking that we can be complete only if and when a man falls for us. And we want that happily ever after; we want to drive into the sunset, we want our rom-com.
Moving on
to our current world, TS and her Eras have imprinted this generation with "Love
Song", "You Belong With Me," "Lover", and "The Tortured Poets Department". Every song is a
heartbreak that millions of girls globally can relate to and resonate with. No
wonder it sells. (FYI: I am a Swifty btw).
And so, right from the Grimm Brothers, to the
Swifty Era, the female mind, heart and soul has been indoctrinated. The books
they sell, the songs they last, and the movies they add as a comfort to our
bare-naked hearts, but only temporarily.
EAT, PRAY LOVE, sells because every female reader believes and longs for their story too, to end in a similar path.
They resonate with the loss, and long for the love.
What if
there existed a world, without any of the above?
A world without the damsel in need of a Prince to come to her rescue?
A world where Vampires are more like the ones in 30 Days of Night, than the ones at Forks County.
A world where guys like Mr. Darcy are cancelled, and not tolerated,
and a world where normal songs minus
the heartaches are on our Spotify list.
Imagine a
world like that?
Because at
the end of the day, darlings, delulu is NOT the solulu 😊
May we find
our happily ever after, in ourselves, and cease to long for that which is
fictional and was created to sell.
